This dovetails so nicely with other work that I think is so important, valid and needs to be seen – especially Karla McLaren’s books, “The Language of Emotions” and “The Art of Empathy”. These internal experiences are there for reason and the sooner we learn to work with them – not against them, not viewing them as “bad” things to be avoided – the sooner we’ll all feel better and be more effective people. It is difficult to change the habits of a lifetime – like perfectionism and being your own worst critic – but these things are my obstacles to lasting peace and happiness. My NY resolutions this year are related to these wishes for myself , and they’re ongoing, constantly adjusting to get to those bigger goals for myself. I’ll let you know how it goes!!
By the second week of January, that resolution that once seemed so reasonable — go to the gym every other day, read a book a week, only drink alcohol on weekends — is starting to seem very … hard. As you are teetering on the edge of abandoning it all together, Kelly McGonigal is here to help. This Stanford University psychologist — who shared last year how you can make stress your friend — wants you to know that you’re not having a hard time sticking to a resolution because you are a terrible person. Perhaps you’ve just formulated the wrong resolution.
McGonigal has, for years, taught a course called “The Science of Willpower” through Stanford’s Continuing Studies program and, in 2011, she spun it into a book, The Willpower Instinct. The TED Blog spoke to McGonigal this week about how willpower is often misunderstood, and what we each can do…
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