This dovetails so nicely with other work that I think is so important, valid and needs to be seen – especially Karla McLaren’s books, “The Language of Emotions” and “The Art of Empathy”. These internal experiences are there for reason and the sooner we learn to work with them – not against them, not viewing them as “bad” things to be avoided – the sooner we’ll all feel better and be more effective people. It is difficult to change the habits of a lifetime – like perfectionism and being your own worst critic – but these things are my obstacles to lasting peace and happiness. My NY resolutions this year are related to these wishes for myself , and they’re ongoing, constantly adjusting to get to those bigger goals for myself. I’ll let you know how it goes!!

Originally posted on TED Blog:

By the second week of January, that resolution that once seemed so reasonable — go to the gym every other day, read a book a week, only drink alcohol on weekends — is starting to seem very … hard. As you are teetering on the edge of abandoning it all together, Kelly McGonigal is here to help. This Stanford University psychologist — who shared last year how you can make stress your friend — wants you to know that you’re not having a hard time sticking to a resolution because you are a terrible person. Perhaps you’ve just formulated the wrong resolution.

McGonigal has, for years, taught a course called “The Science of Willpower” through Stanford’s Continuing Studies program and, in 2011, she spun it into a book, The Willpower Instinct. The TED Blog spoke to McGonigal this week about how willpower is often misunderstood, and what we each can do…

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